Your friends might be the reason you’re not growing
Family, colleagues, and friends: the core of your life is the relationships you have. And yet, they might be the very reason you’re not as successful as you’d like to be, the reason you’re not using your full potential, and you feel stuck.
In the book “Trillion Dollar Coach”, Eric Schmidt, the former Chairman of Google, writes about Bill Campbell, one of the most famous coaches in Silicon Valley. He says: “From the (not so) small talk, Bill moves fast to performance: What are you working on? How is it going? How could he help? Then, we would always get to peer relationships, which Bill thought were more important than relationships with your manager and other higher-ups.”
Let me paraphrase: one way to take a look at your life is to evaluate the relationships with your friends because that’s more important to your success than the relationships you have with your boss or the other managers in your company. Can that be true? What does science have to say about this?
A study from Harvard, conducted by social psychologist Dr McClelland, states that “the people you habitually associate with determine as much as 95% of your success or failure in life.”
Woah. NINETY-FIVE PER CENT of your success is likely decided by the people you spend the most time with.
